如果孩子們有一朵能實現愿望的七色花，他們一定會很快把花瓣用光，因為孩子們的愿望實在太多啦。但是，和成人不同，孩子們的愿望往往都很簡單，很純凈，就像孩子的心靈一樣。如果你能了解孩子的愿望，你也可以為他們做一朵“七色花”。

1. The Wish To Have Fun
愿望一：開心

When asked by adults, children will answer questions about what they want to be when they grow up. But the chances are they are probably happier sticking in the ‘now’ and doing whatever it takes to just have fun and enjoy themselves. You can take a step back and let this happen as often as possible.
長大以后想做什么？如果大人問起這個問題，孩子們可能會作出回答。但是孩子們往往更喜歡專注于當下，做任何能讓自己開心的事情。大人應該向后退一步，盡量讓孩子自由地享受當下的生活。

2. The Wish To Play
愿望二：玩耍

If you’re lucky, fun and enjoyment can come in a great many forms when you’re a kid. Play is usually at the heart of it. Play allows children’s imaginations to run riot, it gives a channel for competition, it lets them immerse and lose themselves, forgetting everything else. You can create an environment or design a schedule where, for a certain time, play is put right at the top of the agenda.
如果你幸運的話，你在孩童時期可以有各種各樣找樂子的方式，玩耍通常都是樂趣的主要來源。玩耍讓孩子們的想象力自由奔跑，讓孩子們有機會互相比拼，讓孩子們沉浸其中，忘卻了其他的一切。你可以為孩子們玩耍創造環境，或在安排日程時把孩子的玩耍放在第一位。

3. The Wish For Mischief
愿望三：惡作劇

Children like to test how far they can go with adults. They revel in cheek, little masters and mistresses when it comes to prodding adults, and often taking enormous amusement in our great displeasure. You can accept their devilish tendencies, and try not to let your temper fray to soon.
孩子們喜歡逗成年人，看成年人對他們的忍耐度有多大。在肆無忌憚地惡作劇時，成年人的強烈不滿會讓這些小淘氣包們樂開花。你只能忍受他們喜歡惡作劇的天性，并努力克制自己的情緒。

4. The Wish To Experiment
愿望四：嘗試

The Wish To Experiment is about testing, probing, learning and discovery. You can let them try things and make their own mistakes, even if they take the occasional bump along the way.
孩子們渴望嘗試、探索、學習和發現。你應該讓他們去嘗試、去犯錯，即使一路上會磕磕絆絆。

5. The Wish To Be Accepted
愿望五：被認可

No child wants to feel like the outsider, although many do. They want recognition, appreciation, engagement and acceptance – much like adults. You can unconditionally accept and forgive them any misdemeanours, not banish them to their rooms for too long.
沒有哪個孩子想被排除在外，盡管有很多孩子都有這種遭遇。他們渴望被認可、被欣賞、被接受，渴望參與進來，這一點和成人很像。你應該無條件地接受孩子，原諒他們犯的小錯，別把他們關在屋子里太久。

6. The Wish For Friendship
愿望六：友誼

For the most part, children like the company of other children; even the most independent and the most happy playing on their own. So you can make sure they have a small social circle.
在大多數情況下，孩子們都喜歡和其他小朋友在一起，即使是最獨立最愛獨處的孩子也是如此。你可以幫孩子們打造一個小社交圈。

7. The Wish For Trust
愿望七：信任

Children can be disarmingly trusting of people; even complete strangers. But it’s likely that only those who have been betrayed or deceived will wish for trust. You can be honest, give them no reason to mistrust you.
孩子們可以毫無保留地信任他人，即使是完全陌生的人。但是那些曾遭受背叛或欺騙的孩子會渴望信任。你應該對孩子誠實，讓他們沒有理由不信任你。

8. The Wish Not To Work Too Hard
愿望八：不想太累

Adaptable as they are, children should be allowed to be children: play, have fun, experiment. You can try to remember this, once they’ve finished washing up, mowing the lawn and building the latest extension.
盡管孩子的適應力強，但還是應該讓孩子做孩子的事：玩耍、開心、嘗試。你要記住，一旦孩子們洗好碗、除完草、拼完新買的樂高，就應該讓他們休息和放松。

9. The Wish To Learn
愿望九：學習

They might not admit it, but children want to learn new things. That’s why they play, explore, discover for themselves. You can let them be the human sponges they are, create environments and make games where they can make discoveries and learn new skills.
孩子們也許不會承認，但孩子們也想要學習新事物。這就是為什么他們會自己去玩耍、探索、發現。你可以讓他們像海綿一樣去吸收新知識，為他們創造學習的環境，設計一些能讓他們從中發現并學到新技能的游戲。

10. The Wish To Wish
愿望十：做夢

Children want time to dream and wish. Let them use some of the school holidays to be idle, to drift, to dream, to wish.
孩子們需要做夢和幻想的時光。學校放假時，給孩子們留出一些無所事事、放飛思緒、做夢和幻想的時間吧。

英文來源：LifeHack
翻譯&編輯：丹妮
審校：齊磊、韓鶴